“Bullied”, “stigmatized”, and “api” — these are just some words to describe how our gay brothers and sisters feel, perhaps because of discrimination and perceptions about how they dress or act.
This is also probably why some people are happy with the airing of GMA’s teleserye, My Husband’s Lover, believing, “It’s about time this kind of show is on air.” Some people however, complain that the series promotes homosexuality. Looking at it, I see a deeper issue involved: ”My Husband’s Lover promotes stereotypes of the “desperadong bading” (desperate gays), doing no favor to our gay brothers.
It adds to the stigma suffered by many people with homosexual attraction. Does this TV series make our gay brothers “proud” of how they are represented in this show? Do they really want to be perceived as being “mang-aagaw ng may asawa” (home-wreckers)? Doesn’t this show make them victims of stereotyping even more? In essence, the teleserye wants to show that gay people can’t be happy and successful on their own. A human person — gay, lesbian or hetereosexual — is not defined nor does he/she derive self-identity from sexual relationships or feelings. Let’s give our gay brothers their DIGNITY back. They deserve better.
But let’s go even deeper into the problem of media today. What do these shows promote?
- A Beautiful Affair
- No other Woman
- My Neighbor’s Wife?
- A Secret Affair
- The Mistress
Do you find the pattern? Simply put, the common denominator is INFIDELITY — glorified adultery.
This brings me to why the MTRCB (Movie and Television Review and Classification Board) should be the first to call out “My Husband’s Lover.”
In case you don’t know, the vision of the MTRCB is to serve the Filipino public, not only through the review and classification of media, but also to be a “prime catalyst of change…recogniz(ing) TV and Movie Media as INDISPENSABLE TOOLS FOR MORAL RECOVERY AND NATION-BUILDING.” (Emphasis mine)
I hope and pray that these kinds of shows will no longer be patronized, seeing — bright as the sun — they do not build us up as human persons nor as a nation.