It may seem “old-fashioned” to some, but these guys — surprisingly — seem to think virginity should go back in fashion.
Sex won’t make you happy
“I think virginity is just what we need right now…Our perception of happiness has changed, so that we think pre-marital sex (PMS) and other sexual acts can make us happy,” said 17-year old Paolo Magtibay, an incoming Ateneo de Manila freshman.
Contrary to what movies or media show, waiting to have sex is a “sure way” to be happy, Magtibay added.Dondie Bernardino, 29, a multi media-product specialist, is even more direct about what he thinks.
“I think pre-marital sex ang outdated, since Old Testament times pa,” Bernardino said, explaining that PMS is an “old story” of human mistakes—something that is the total opposite of the Gospel and its freshness.
Sin, Bernardino explained, became a thing of the past when Christ saved us from sin, which is why having sex outside of marriage is soooo yesterday.
A Salesian Youth Movement leader, Bernardino added, valuing virginity is something new and concrete that Jesus gave us when He saved us from sin—which includes premarital sex.
According to Bernardino, deciding to save one’s virginity is a fruit of living a full life—a life with Christ, a life of virtue.
No to peer pressure, desperation
Despite a lot of young people having sex with the “if it feels right, do it” mentality, some young people still believe sex belongs to marriage and not to young people who just feel the hormones of puppy love.
“’Feel’ isn’t enough, you have to ‘know’ that you love this person and want to spend the rest of your life with this person… I think that sex after marriage is the best course of action,” said Lakan Dela Cruz, 14, a Philippine Science High School Western Visayas student.
He said, young people get pressured into losing their virginity because of peer pressure or desperation.
With a culture obsessed with “instants”—instant noodles, 10 Mbps internet speed, speed dating—waiting to have sex seems almost like..duh?!
But for Keith Janohan, 30, a marketing and communications head, time actually adds to the value of virginity.
“Virginity is like a gift, it does not get outdated,” he added.